If there is Reincarnation? How Can a Medium Talk to Dead people?

Most mediums are hesitant to talk about reincarnation. But, I don’t know a medium that doesn’t believe in it. Here in the Bible belt, folks want to live a good life and go to heaven when they die and want the others who didn’t live the right life to go to hell.

Now up until 503AD there where many Christians secs including the Gnostics who believed in Jesus and reincarnation. If you’re a Buddhist, Hindu or Jewish Kabbalist, you can skip this post, because you already understand the process.

So as a medium, I can talk to your loved ones who crossed over and tell you they are alive and well in paradise. That’s what most mediums do. It’s only half the truth. I don’t know a medium that doesn’t believe we incarnate to another life. Wouldn’t you like to know the whole story? How can mediums talk to dead people if there is reincarnation?

Reincarnation is an interesting concept. We’re born, we live, and we die and start the process all over again. Why? To evolve our souls and to be the best soul we can be. So who decides how many times you’ve got to do this and who’s in charge of this game, God?

No you do. You are in heaven right this moment. This is just one life you are living. You may be living another life on this earth and maybe more in other dimensions. Mind blown!!!

Your soul is in heaven right now.  Your soul is energy. You are a ball of energy that thinks and can look like anything or past life you want to look like. You have some guides that help advise you. Guides who have been around tens of thousands of years. You have a master guide that you choose that have been with you for dozens of lives, maybe even hundreds. And this guide picks other guides to help you in this incarnation.

You have a soul group made up of about 20 to 30 of your closest friends, family and lovers. They are all your soulmates that play different roles in your current life. They all in-act the script that you and them wrote and rewrite every night. Where did you think your soul goes while you are sleeping? You can travel around the world, learn, teach, meet with your soul group and guides, tailoring a life that you will get the most use of.

You also have about another three or four other soul groups that help play the bit roles in our lives as we do for them. So how long does it last? From the time you die and are reborn can be a matter of days to a month to a year. All the time your soul can keep track of everyone that is still living, as well as tell me what you did this or last week.

It was sure a lot simpler to just go to heaven and live happily ever after. And some day it will happen. Are you a few, dozen, hundreds of lives away? If you came to earth and this dimension you are on the rapid plan. It’s tough, but they won’t have you do anything that you haven’t signed up for.

Your loved ones on the other side tell me the most amazing things about reincarnation and the kids can’t keep from telling me about heaven, how beautiful it is and how we all have so much to learn. If you have any questions about reincarnation, private message me and I’ll answer in another post. We’ll probably talk about it tonight in heaven!

Steve Spur

Steve Spur is an Evidential Psychic Medium based in the Dallas and Fort Worth, Texas area. He reads for people all over the United States to reconnect people with their friends, family and loved ones who have crossed over.


  1. Ingrid Wilkins on January 26, 2020 at 11:41 am

    I would love to have a past life reading. I def chose a life not for amateurs this go round. Are we aware of our past lives when choosing a new life? Do we generally stay with the same spirits over and over?

    • Steve Spur on January 27, 2020 at 4:41 pm

      You always get to choose your new life. You will always reincarnate within the same soul group of between 25 to 30 people. You will always work with peripheral groups (three to four) that you have worked with before. Almost all of the people and groups are on the same soul level and pick lives that will help everybody evolve to the next soul level. The ultimate level being about unconditional love and forgiveness.

      • Jennifer Park on April 15, 2021 at 1:01 am

        Hi Steve, My daughter Alyssa was 23 months old and was killed when she was hit by a vehicle. My husband and I went to a medium, he told us family members she was with in heaven. we have since had more readings with this medium and he told us our daughter has reincarnated. will her soul that we know be the same when we go to heaven? is she not there at all if she has reincarnated? i’m trying to understand reincarnation and heaven.
        thank you
        Jennifer Park

        • Steve Spur on April 21, 2021 at 8:26 pm

          We are all in heaven right now. We bring about 25% of our energy to this body on earth. You and the last couple hundred people that you have been (reincarnation) are still in heaven. A medium will always be able to talk to them. I assume many of the spirits I’m talking to have al ready reincarnated. But I’m not talking to the 25% of their energy on earth, that’s ESP. I’m talking to the 75% in heaven that we share a dimension with and a 1/16 inch two way mirror. They are in heaven 95% of the time and I can all ways connect to them in heaven after hearing you talk and matching frequencies. Read up as much as you can. I blew my mind. You should be able to go to a legit medium and always talk to your daughter. Peace, Steve

        • Steve Spur on December 4, 2023 at 2:37 pm

          A part of us is always in heaven. A majority of our energy is in heaven. We may be living multiple lives at the same time. That’s the only way I can connect to your loved ones in heaven. She may already reincarnated or is waiting for the rest of our soul group to gather again and reincarnate as a group again. The young who pass over are old souls who help us learn life lessons.

      • Sylvana Wick on January 8, 2022 at 1:14 am

        I dont want to reincarnate anymore. I love this life and the thought of losing my partner in the perfect relationship I have with him in this life makes my heart hurt. I dont want to forget this relationship or any relationships I have with my current friends or my family members. How do I stop reincarnated so I can remember this life exactly how it is?

        • Steve Spur on January 8, 2022 at 8:53 am

          You will remember every life exactly the way it was. Not only that, but you will be able to rewind the life of everyone you know or had a connection with. If you lived a perfect life, it’s because of the others in this life. You will want to return the favor until you graduate to a higher level on the other side. It usually takes hundreds to thousands of lives. I’m not the reincarnation expert. But I do know enough. Check into the subject. It will change your life for the better. You’re earning positive karma!

      • Michele Smith on July 21, 2022 at 10:09 am

        Hi Steve, can I get a reading please? I know I am far, Maryland, but I can mail you some objects. And do a video chat.
        Thank you,

    • Suhail on March 28, 2021 at 10:42 pm

      Hi Steve spur 🥰💗⚘

      Is reincarnation time line , is already set up , can we reincarnation in future , or it’s just only present

      If so
      How we got a prophacy a bout future ? 🤔 I mean in sense
      of it’s set up as solid event , already exist .

      With all my love

  2. Marilou Slagle on February 15, 2020 at 10:39 am

    Are you saying that a soul has “aspects” that are “living” in many times, places, planets, galaxies, universes, realities at the same time? Can a human reincarnate as a tree or a panther? Does every particle in the universe have a “piece” of the creator? is a universe and every particle in it the physical/wave function manifestation of the Great Spirit/Creator/All That IS? Please please please reply. I will give you my email here then when you email me I will give you my phone number. Thank you so much. I am 77 years old this time and I have been trying to figure this stuff out for decades. Marilou Slagle crystalconnectionmjm@gmail.com

    • Steve Spur on February 17, 2020 at 4:30 pm

      You may be living in multiple bodies on this earth plane or other dimensions. The majority of our soul is in a dimension I call heaven. Some Buddhist believe that people can come back as animals. I do not. I believe a horse comes back as a horse, dog a dog, etc. This is why instinct is so prevalent in certain animals. I believe as humans we can detect frequencies in all life, plant and animal. If there are other beings with advanced thought, and I believe there is, they share the same Great Spirit or God that created all.
      Peace, Steve

  3. B Brady on April 12, 2020 at 1:24 am

    My question is . If a loved one passes away , do they retain memories and personality and identity .dso when my time comes and I pass away ,Will I meet them as the person they were ! Iv struggled with the concept of reincarnation as the whole loss of identity throws me and I don’t want to think of my deceased loved ones as a ball of light energy . I want to think of them with personalities , memories and traits that made them who they are .
    So my thinking is , when we pass we return to spirit and the existing personality stays in spirit while part of the soul may return to earth so the spirit/identity stays in heaven with memories intact and another small part of the soul returns to earth !
    Nothing else can make sense to me at the moment ???! Is that your own concept

  4. Scott Gillespie on April 17, 2020 at 3:41 pm

    A lot of mediums, like you Steve, say that those who suffer- chose to suffer, chose to be raped, beaten and murdered, in this life? Why so that some jackass can become a “better” spirit in the next life? Really? Someone chose to be burned alive, beheaded, dragged behind a truck because of their color? Chose, actually chose, to have Hezbollah detonate the largest non-nuclear explosion in history in a truck and drop a 3 story building on the heads of 241 men? For What? For someone else’s benefit? The world of spirit mediums might want to re-tune your antennae and come up with a better reason for why someone would ALLOW themselves to be physically, emotionally and spiritually destroyed on this planet.
    You can’t tell me that people choose to suffer that much pain in a life for someone else’s benefit. And then that pain get distributed throughout their family members and destroys them as well. You HAVE a much better chance to make me believe that GOD is a Mafia Boss and said I had to suffer that much destruction. No, no one chooses that kind of suffering. And I’m speaking from personal experience. No, Steve, I didn’t choose the nightmare I live everyday for someone else. And I sure as hell didn’t choose it for my own betterment. I made the decision and I live with that decision everyday. But my decision was NOT to suffer with un-remitting physical pain everyday. I chose to be a U.S. Marine. I chose to serve. I chose to protect. I did not consciously want that decision to end in unbelievable suffering everyday. But it did and I’ll deal with it my way. Not for someone else’s benefit Steve. Honestly, I’d like to know how you, or any of the Medium universe, would respond and give me or anyone a better reason. Something, anything that makes sense sir. Thank you for your answer in advance Steve.

    • Steve Spur on April 19, 2020 at 1:29 am

      This life is so complicated. Your suffering has a reason. I think a lot of our suffering is karmic. I killed you and tortured you and some life I will have to answer for it to experience the things you went through. Not only will I suffer the same things you went through, but I will experience the pain and suffering for all of those who knew you and what you went through. Someday, in a new life, I’ll decide not to go through that again and will evolve my soul a little bit, once I’ve paid back the karma associated with my actions. This may take hundreds or thousands of lives of doing good, trying to learn unconditional love, forgiveness, compassion and a higher way of thinking. Someday those who are suffering because of a loss of child or loved one, the experience will tear their heart out.

      You may be the first to go through this first in your soul group or in adjacent groups and will be the expert on pain and suffering. You will be able to guide them out of their hole of experiences trying to make them whole again, although none of us that have suffered a loss can be complete again. We all choose the nightmares that happen to us in this life. You choose the major events that will affect you in this life. You have already chosen how you will die in this life. Everything was up for discussion before you came down here. There is a reason for everything you went through in this life and will not know the reasons until this life is over and we have our life review and assessments with our guides in heaven.

      Not everyone chooses the path you took. Only the oldest souls go through the toughest lives all to evolve their souls to be more “Christ like.” If you go through things for others it is karma. If you go through hell for yourself it is to evolve your soul.

      I don’t know everything. I’ve been taught a lot by talking to spirit of my clients I bring through. This is a very tough subject. It took me many years just to scratch the service of why we come down here and have to suffer. I would recommend the following books about past lives and reincarnation for a better understanding or the process.

      Soul Stories, by Gary Zukav
      Many Lives, Many Masters, by Brian Weiss
      Journey of Souls by Michael Newton
      Other Lives, Other Selves, by Roger Woolger

    • Beth Dear on March 26, 2021 at 12:00 am

      I literally love you. I felt everything you wrote to my core. I have honestly asked myself questions with such deep hurt & a “need/want to know why”, so many times (if that makes sense). Thanks for asking this and for writing it with such feeling. Good luck with everything 💛 thank you for sacrificing yourself to serve this country.

  5. akumar on April 22, 2020 at 11:17 am

    I saw you said soul gets to choose the next life to re-incarnate.
    But I can’t think of a reason why anybody would want to be born in a poor/with bad health/potential to abuse (e.g. places where children are sold for prostitution ) places.
    Could you please eloborate in this please.

    • Steve Spur on October 2, 2020 at 9:27 am

      It’s hard to explain, but if you want to experience everything in the world and every emotion, than you will be every race, each sex, rich and poor, good and bad, kill and be killed, rape and be raped, all so you can learn to like Jesus, Buddha and Muhammad, etc. You have the same Spirit Guides, Angels and a soul group you work with each incarnation. I highly recommend the book, Many Lives, Many Masters, by Brian Weiss if you really want to understand. Peace!

      • Beth on March 26, 2021 at 12:09 am

        Kill and be killed? Rape and be raped? Isn’t there like heaven or hell? If so, you kill someone or whatever and you go to hell, how do you even reincarnate? So basically I chose to be 27 and get hit by a drunk driver on my way to work at 7:30am? I had a good life. I worked hard. I used to smile. It’s been almost 20 years; my life is completely gone from chronic pain. I still look okay, so sometimes I feel like people don’t even believe me, but the flares and so many nights of being unable to sleep from pain. I lost my 15 year career. I lost all my money to medical bills and debt. I lost my husband (not like that was a real loss. He treated me like crap & he’s getting his health related karma). But I was always always a good person. It breaks my heart when I look back at pics and I’m like, “damn I used to smile and be so happy.” Now I’m like a shell of a person, just looking for the purpose as to why I had to live.

        Anyway, Sorry, it’s been a long night and a lot of googling. Thanks so much 🙂 – sorry. I guess I needed someone to talk to 💙

        • Steve Spur on March 26, 2021 at 1:20 pm

          You really need to reed, Robert Swartz’s Your Soul’s Plan. I don’t know if it is any easier to think that we picked this life instead of God or that it was a random event. I had a hard time believing in reincarnation, until I had lots of souls telling their loved ones that they would live many lives together.

        • Kebrina on July 15, 2022 at 7:53 am

          Beth My heart goes out to you and to everyone in here. Thank you Cowboy psychic. Your pretty awesome. So happy to have stumbled across your wisdom friend!
          Not many of us have had an easy life. Which means we are bad ass warriors. We did not incarnate at this time in this place for an easy ride. We came to kick ass and help the planet, people, and ourselves evolve and ascend. There has never been a time like this in history!
          There is one thing that brought back my awe for life, got me back to smiling, got me back to dancing, singing, and acting like a kid in the rain and playing in the warm FL ocean and I’m no kid at 47.
          I finally realized things happen for me, they do not happen to me. No matter how shitty, thry happen for me.
          After I let that sink in, I then sat down made a list of all the shitty stuff, situations, loss, deaths, finance, betrayals, ypu name I’ve lived it, and as a scientist looked at each angle and said ok my brother played this part, thanked him for it (we do not speak), gave it to my higher self, said ok we have learned, letsbus love him for that, forgive him, and lets release this now, and so I did into the sky like a cloud. If you knew what he did you would judge him in the harshest of ways. Guys that’s his karma-so dam happy it isn’t mine! :)) I did this with a list of 150 crappy things everything I could think of for 40years. I analyzed it, tried to see the role and point of it how I became stronger, wiser, then forgave it, wrapped it in love, thanked it and released it. I’m not here to compare trauma, but been exposed to many the marine mentioned above. I survived it, But you know what? I was still carrying it even though I never thought about it. I was good at getting over PTSD.
          But in Febuary I decided to shift my perspective and decided just this – It happened for me. Nothing happens to me. What happens to me doesn’t define me, not even how I handled it, it’s how perceive it years decades later that changed my life around!

          It’s 6 months later now. And life is a Party! I have never been happier in my life. Never! All things come to me. It’s like I’m the focal point of many vortexes of abundance, joy, happiness, and fulfillment. Seems ridiculous lol its hard even for me to believe. But everything I need or want drops in my lap or is there when I turn a corner. Just now starting to see the wisdom behind law of attraction and manifestation. I see the wisdom of having guides, I wish we could speak out loud but that will come, my hands get hot, fingers tingle, and the nudges are always there.
          We are all magnificent beings, you all have the most amazing abilities and you all are beautiful! We were never thought any of this! But it is real.
          Loving you all unconditionally for just being you. You all have amazing abilities to shift realities! Thats what this dimension is – one you created as the Cowboy states – he is spot on. Shine Bright Yall! You got this!

          • Steve Spur on December 4, 2023 at 1:54 pm

            You found your path quit early. In my next life I want to be awakened much earlier. You get it! Peace

        • Steve Spur on December 4, 2023 at 2:47 pm

          You are an old, old soul to take on so much in this lifetime. Pain, grief, suffering so we can learn forgiveness and unconditional love. You are trying to even out karma in every life. I think of all of the innocent people suffering in the world. We don’t have all of the answers in this life, but will see all things on the other side. Do the best you can with what you are given. Try and make an effort to keep your spirit strong. Help others evolve with your love, kindness and compassion.

          I asked my guides, When am I going to have an easy life, take a break a breather life. There was a long pause, They told me I’m living that life. Well, screw me! I don’t want to sign up for such a hard life next time.

          Everything we do makes a difference to the future. All we can do is our best!

    • Joan Kalil on December 6, 2020 at 4:51 pm

      I personally don’t know. My Aunt who was my godmother had esp she would speak to her mother and different things that were all true. I pray to God I come back I want to be a nurse or Dr open up clinic for the poor in Yuganda I do believe Steve

  6. Cody on June 26, 2020 at 3:28 pm

    I believe the concept of reincarnation as you mediums describe it as is all wrong. So souls just choose to be like Hitler or mass murderers?? If we just continue to repeat lives over and over and over, who decides when our soul has “learned enough”. Since the point is to grow ones soul (whatever that means), wouldn’t souls not choose to be like Hitler and become more and more peaceful? If reincarnation actually happened there would be no point in living on this earth at all. What is the point of living multiple lives on earth in order to progress our soul when we could very well do that in the spirit realm. The phrase “progress our soul” doesn’t even make sense. I believe God made every single one of us unique with our own personalities, our own emotions and thoughts. If reincarnation actually happened, there would be no point in having relationships or a family or friends, if in the end we are all just going to be a ball of light who reincarnates into a brand new person in a brand new family. When people are murdered, especially at a young age, their parents and friends long for the day when they can meet again together with God, so you mean to tell me that those people will just get reincarnated and not even be with each other?? The whole concept of reincarnation literally contradicts God. Maybe we grow spiritually in the afterlife but certainly not become a totally new person.

    • Steve Spur on October 2, 2020 at 9:16 am

      You reincarnate with your family (soul group of about 25 to 30 people) each life and other soul groups that are close to you. You have incarnated as good and bad people, every race and religion. Think of it as each life is a movie, everybody has a script of things they will do, good and bad. You pick the bad roles to help those in your group learn such things as unconditional love and forgiveness. You love the person in your soul group so much that you will treat them badly so they can learn a lesson that they can’t learn in the perfection of heaven. You keep your personality through time. That is who you are. You connect with your higher self each night (soul that is in heaven). You only bring about 25% of your energy to this life. Of course I was raised in a protestant church that preached you only had one life and you’d only go to heaven or hell. It was spirit that told me about reincarnation and that we’d always be together with our loved ones. This is just an earth school experience and report back every night. We have spirit guides and angels that guide us and protect us and keep us on our path of learning. I was talking to dead people, which is a miracle in itself. And now spirit was telling me about reincarnation? It was the hardest thing to get over. I highly recommend the book by Brian Weiss, Many Lives, Many Masters. It will be well worth your time. Even if after reading the book, you still don’t believe. You might check out the many books written about children remembering their past lives. Even my own grandchildren have told me storys about past lives. These stories convinced me. Good luck researching. It will change your life!

  7. Patty M on September 27, 2020 at 10:41 pm

    We’ve been trying to make contact with a relative through a psychic medium but he doesn’t come through. We did have another relative that did come through with the same medium but for some reason the other one does not. Our question is: If said relative reincarnated would that be the reason he’s not coming through because he’s back with us physically? Thanks in advance.

    • Steve Spur on October 2, 2020 at 8:43 am

      No,it’s not because they are all ready reincarnated. I always say, There are horses for courses. Some can run in the mud, some the turf. Not all mediums can pick up all family members. They are just on a different frequency than the medium has the ability to communicate with. It has happened to me as well. Wait six months and try a different medium.

  8. Patrick on September 29, 2020 at 6:40 am

    Hi Steve, this is so fascinating, and thank you for this article. It has brought me peace. My mother passed away recently in the most tragic of circumstance at the young age of 56. I believe in reincarnation. When I die, will I meet her soul? or because she would have already reincarnated, will I only meet her in the next life based on Karma? Secondly, when a medium connects to a soul that has already reincarnated, does the soul have the memories of this recent life to convey messages to the medium accordingly? Thank you for replying -Patrick

    • Steve Spur on October 2, 2020 at 8:23 am

      Yes, you will meet her soul! The soul can connect to the soul group it is connected to. Say you have a grandfather that dies. Seven years later he reincarnates as a child who dies at 10 year of age. The family connected to the grandfather will always be able to connect to him while they are all living and have memories of him, because his higher self (soul) is always in heaven just like you and I, and only bring about 25% of of essence to this earthly body. While the family of the child that died can contact them as well, even if the are in another soul group.

  9. Sophia on October 28, 2020 at 5:56 pm

    Hi! I’m gifted and always have been, but have never tapped into the spirit world outside of interacting with those who openly interact with me. Recently, I did a past-life regression and found out I was the love of a soldier named Alexander in the Second World War. He never came home. I was wondering if it would be wise/safe to contact him or if I even could. I do not know if he has been reincarnated, and even if he hasn’t if he will even remember me. I know our memories are more or less buried when we enter a new life, and I would like to get to know him for the person he was even though I am a different person and we knew each other only long ago. Would you advise this? Or do you think it would mess with the life I am currently living?

    • Steve Spur on January 28, 2021 at 1:09 pm

      I don’t think you would be able to validate anything about him to prove it’s him. He may already be in your soul group again.

  10. Kelly Obrien on October 28, 2020 at 7:06 pm

    So is there any real evil out there then? If people do horrific things is it just to evolve their souls? Or do they do it because they are pure evil? Is there an evil spirits that do not return to heaven when they die. Like pedophiles or child molesters. Do they get second chances

    • Steve Spur on January 28, 2021 at 1:07 pm

      Somebody has to play the evil roles. I’m sure Hitler is in heaven paying his dues. He has to reincarnate and go through the pain he did to others. It’s going to take millions of painful lives to pay off his karma.

  11. Heather Hogue on January 16, 2021 at 11:20 pm

    This is fascinating and confirms sime of what I’ve been seeing in my dreams lately. I’d love to have a reading.

  12. Barbara Griffith on February 11, 2021 at 1:52 pm

    What about a very special pet, that came into your life at a momentous time, lived with you through significant events, then passed away too young?

    • Steve Spur on February 11, 2021 at 1:56 pm

      Everything happens for a reason. Your pet is in heaven or will reincarnate and you’ll be drawn to get another pet. Either way, you will see them again!

      • k w on May 31, 2021 at 9:12 pm

        if i die before my mom or my sisters soul do i wait until they die to be reincarnated with them? will i see my dead dog when i die like how she was before she died?

        • Steve Spur on May 31, 2021 at 10:04 pm

          Yes, just had this conversation with friends over the weekend. You can reincarnate and come back either days or 50 to 75 years, waiting for the rest of your soul group to get together.

          Just remember we often don’t want the same role in the soul group. Think as your life as a movie script, and young brothers and sisters will come into the world or you meet one of your soulmates later so this may effect when everyone comes back. If the child becomes the father or mother in the next life. They are leaving heaven first to start the new round of life lessons.

        • Steve Spur on December 4, 2023 at 2:34 pm

          After we die our soul group will get together and see what parts we will play in our next life. Who will play dad, mom, brother, sister, stepdad,grandmother, etc. you will see your pets again as any animal that dreams has a soul. Pets will reincarnate with us in other lives as their energy is drawn to us life after life.

    • Kingsley on July 12, 2021 at 3:50 am

      Hi sir, I was told by my dad that I was the reincarnation of his father that died many years ago who happened to be my grand father, and I have been going through a rough and tough time but when I stood up to make research on reincarnation and it’s complication to my life, I was told that I should make peace with my late grand father who reincarnated to me and welcome him for things to be well for me. So my question is, how will I be able to get connected or communicate with the dead man that reincarnated to me and what does it mean to accept or welcome him. How? Please I need to be clearified. Thanks you.

      • Steve Spur on July 13, 2021 at 2:34 pm

        The majority of your soul is in heaven right now. We bring down percentages of our soul to different reincarnations. Whoever you were before, forgive them and forgive yourself for what you did to hurt anyone else. In this life forgive yourself for not knowing better at the time. In this life start paying it forward to help yourself in other incarnations.

        • Brianna on July 31, 2021 at 9:20 am

          Hi sir I have been going through a lot and I look at these things where people chose to take their life. My question is do they end up in heaven. And another question is can you stay in haven forever by doing a job or something. Or will you be forced to leave after a certain time .

    • Steve Spur on December 4, 2023 at 2:51 pm

      I know I have had dogs and horses reincarnate back into this life and many others. They are connected to are energy to help us evolve through time. I believe dogs reincarnate as dogs, zebras as equine, elephants as elephants and that is why animals have instinct to survive.

  13. Raven on June 19, 2021 at 2:36 pm

    I like you Steve. I’m partial to cowboys. Some of what you say is spot on. Some is not. You definitely have insight and quite a bit of knowledge. Not everyone’s life is pre-planned. But you are correct that everything happens for a reason.

  14. Lynne on June 28, 2021 at 6:54 pm

    So, please help me understand; cause I am kinda losing my mind here. A friend recently passed—not a super close friend—just a friend that I talked to occasionally. Since he died, I cannot get him out of my mind. The more I talk to mutual friends, I find that he had negative experiences/ emotions in my life that were/are startling similar to my own. And I can’t stop crying and feeling guilty as hell that I wasn’t there to help him—even though realistically, I couldn’t have been. Sometimes I feel like he’s in the room with me. I also feel like I was a little in love with him and didn’t realize it until he died. So where is he NOW? Is he in Heaven? Has he reincarnated already and the 75% of him up in Heaven is contacting me? Will I see him again somewhere and will he look like I knew him in this life? Or will we find each other in another life. I feel like I am losing my natural mind and must be imagining this, but I have NEVER responded this way to a death. How can I be this obsessed/upset about someone I didn’t even know that well?!! Where is he and where am I am I in relation to him?

    • Steve Spur on June 29, 2021 at 12:42 am

      You both may be in the same soul group, or another group that you work together every couple of lives. Respect everyone you work with or have a relationship with. Pay it forward. You don’t want to owe anybody. The entire goal is unconditional love and forgiveness. Do you best to help all people. Learn what you can and advance your soul and help others advance their’s.

    • Steve Spur on December 4, 2023 at 2:30 pm

      He can be part of your life in spirit. They know what you signed up for in this life, so they can’t interfere, but they can help guide us like our spirit guides. Knowing what I do now, I don’t know if I’ve ever had an original thought in my life. Our guides and loved ones can put ideas in our head to keep us on our path and educate others.

      You will feel him around you in this life. Everyone has an individual vibration and one shared with your soul group. I was trained to connect to people you loved on the other side by listening to your voice (vibration) and matching it to others in your soul group in heaven. Learn to meditate and it will be easier to feel their energy, in the car, at the football game or wherever you go. They can pop in at any time and share their love and energy.

  15. Ravi on July 8, 2021 at 4:26 pm

    One important missing piece in the puzzle will be the time elapsed. Spiritualist deny reincarnation because they cannot explain how they can talk to a departed soul if they are reincarnated. But one should consider the time that a soul takes to re-incarnate, It is said that time passes at different speed on earth-plane than the spiritual plane. So a lifetime of human time could only be like half a day in spirit world so its possible that mediums could talk to the departed soul even before they are re-incarnated. It is also possible about what Steve said that they are talking to remaining % of energy. It is almost impossible to understand everything about this world that we see and next to impossible about the world we don’t see.

    • Steve Spur on December 4, 2023 at 2:22 pm

      Yes, you get it. I once brought through a child’s spirit that had died a physical death at the age of 11. The child showed me glimpses of heaven and said there time on earth was like waking up after a dream and a nights sleep in heaven time. I tell my clients that if we live to 100 years of age, it will only seem like a few weeks in heaven time.

  16. Brianna on July 31, 2021 at 9:30 am

    Hi sir I was wonder if people who commit suicide go to heaven and if reincarnation is real will I suffer more because I did this. And if they do enter heaven why can’t they stay there forever. I don’t want to live life’s full of pain I just want to retire why can’t that happen.

    • Steve Spur on July 31, 2021 at 9:40 am

      Those who take their lives do make it to heaven. I believe most get counsel and are sent back to another life that when they get to the same life lesson, they choose life. Think as heaven as a spiritual university. I rather do the work study program and come back here. Many souls have told me that perfection and paradise is boring.

  17. Jessy on August 30, 2021 at 3:01 pm

    I have just read Journey of Souls, Destiny of Souls, Many Lives Many Masters, Life After Life, Evidence of the Afterlife. All very good books on NDEs and reincarnation. A few weeks ago I lost someone whom I believe to be the love of my life and have been in so much emotional pain, I need to know where he is and if he’s ok etc. Steve your insight sums up what all these books write about, and although it is difficult to accept and understand at first it seems to almost make sense, ie life is a journey of learning and evolving, there is a purpose, and overall just be a good person. I don’t normally read these kinds of chat groups / blogs but I want to share this discovery with others and never thought I’d be agreeing with a Pyschic called Cowboypsychic! 🙂

    • Steve Spur on August 30, 2021 at 3:08 pm

      He’s alive and well on the other side that I call heaven!

    • Steve Spur on December 4, 2023 at 2:16 pm

      You’re on the right path. Reincarnation blew my tiny little cowboy mind. There is so much to learn and experience in this life. Are soulmates, teachers and loved ones will come and go. Just know they are always with us in this world as well as the other side. Know that there are people in your soul group that you haven’t met yet.

  18. Emily on September 27, 2021 at 10:13 am

    Thank you for this explanation. It has brought a lot of peace to the way I have been thinking lately. I have to wonder though…what is the point of life on earth (I know it’s to learn lessons to improve/elevate our soul)? Should we still work towards improving the world we live in? Does it even matter? I’ve always thought that my purpose was to make this world a better place but being opened up to a new way of viewing death has made me feel confused about this part of my journey.

    • Steve Spur on September 27, 2021 at 1:07 pm

      You are evolving your soul by helping other people and making this world a better place. Some of the negative things that happen to us is karma we are paying back. Knowing what I know now about my past lives, I’m trying to pay it forward as far as I can! Hard lives means you are an old soul. Don’t forget we may have chosen to be a small piece of the puzzle in someone’s life who will do great things.

      • Emily on October 12, 2021 at 4:02 pm

        Thank you! Sorry, I didn’t see how quickly you responded and I very much appreciate that! 🙂

    • Steve Spur on December 4, 2023 at 2:12 pm

      Improving the world we live in is a test. Help everybody that you can on your path and you learn to evolve. Concentrate on helping members of your soul group. Remember we may not be the hub on the wheel, but one of many spokes and we’re all connected. You will be guided on your path. Use your intuition to clear your path and enjoy this life as much as you can.

  19. Alanna on November 20, 2021 at 6:12 pm

    My husband passed away 8 months ago and he was (is) the love of my life. When he was here he always told me that I was the love of his life too. When he passed away, did his feelings for me change? Does romance exist amongst the souls in heaven? Does the larger percentage of my soul and his soul interact in a romantic way in heaven even tho he is no longer here? Or in heaven do we just get together and discuss our scripts like a business plan and that’s it? I was hoping that one day he and I would be embracing each other in paradise never to be parted again?

    • Steve Spur on December 4, 2023 at 2:08 pm

      You have many soulmates. You love them all in all of your past lives. Some soulmates are lovers as others are teachers, both good and bad. It’s not a romantic love in heaven, it’s a Jesus or Buddha type love. You love a baby because of its innocence. You respect and love those who have helped you in your many lives. Unconditional love and forgiveness is the way to go. You will have many lives in this life and many more on the other side.

  20. Steve Spur on November 21, 2021 at 5:14 pm

    His love for you will be even greater than you can imagine! Everybody is their angelic self or prefix self in heaven. I believe we are already in heaven and bring a percentage of our energy to this life on earth to learn life lessons and evolve our soul. Love is one of the greatest lessons we can receive and learn.

  21. David Witt on December 12, 2021 at 9:28 am

    Good morning Steve, my 26 year old son passed the day after fathers day. We were best friends and had a close relationship. Since he has passed I have been overwhelmed with grief and guilt. I’ve been unable to contact him or feel him. I know my grief has numbed my connection. I love Josh so much I am so sorry for everything. I need to know he is ok. I miss him so much.

    • Steve Spur on December 12, 2021 at 10:02 pm

      I’m so sorry for your loss. I tell my clients that heaven is not in a galaxy far far away. It’s in this dimension and a 1/16 of a inch two-way mirror separate us from paradise! Our loved ones on the other side and see us and hear us. Every time you think about them or say their name it sends a frequency and they can tune into what we are doing. They will be determined to show you signs of their existence! Center yourself the best you can so they can give you sign songs, pennies and feathers from heaven, blinking lights and electrical events, visitation dreams, smells, moving objects in the house, anything to get your attention to prove they are alive and well on the other side!

      There will always be a hole in your heart. It never goes away, but we learn to live with the pain. Live the best life you can live and make him proud. Learn forgiveness, compassion and unconditional love and your ahead in the game. Always pay it forward and you will receive blessings from your loved ones who crossed before you!

    • Steve Spur on December 4, 2023 at 2:03 pm

      Everyone makes it to the other side I call heaven. Know that he is around you at anytime he wants. He loves you and this life will be a blink of the eye in heaven’s time. Live a life he would approve of as you’ll be together again!

  22. Janet Orselli on August 21, 2022 at 7:24 am

    If it each person’s higher self or soul you are contacting then can you contact the higher self of yourself and ask questions?

    • Steve Spur on August 21, 2022 at 11:52 am

      That is the entire goal with meditation! To merge yourself with your higher self. To let go of ego and watch your life as a movie instead of being in the movie.

      We can connect with our guides and loved ones with meditation. We connect with our higher self “angelic self” or soul, every night. Believe it or not we are on our path. It pisses me off sometimes, but we’re meant to learn the lessons. We constantly ask our guides to keep us on plan.

      Peace, Steve

  23. Janet Orselli on August 22, 2022 at 12:34 pm

    Thank you Steve — some of what you write is new to me but a lot of what you say is just a little bit more detailed than what I already knew or sensed. I guess I was looking for some short cut! I feel sure once we get our rational brain to shut up and releases the judgment of self and others it happens. We have all experienced it — we just can’t remember how we got there and “trying” to make it happen just blocks it. A catch-22 between desiring and releasing.
    Have you read A Course of Love? It’s helping me immensely but the main thing I need do right now is believe I am fine and that everything that is happening is for my own good.
    Thank you for sharing with all of us. I will keep reading your old and new posts and telling others about you.
    Peace to you too, Janet

    • Steve Spur on December 4, 2023 at 1:50 pm

      A Course in Love is good and my wife has read and studied it. We will all be drawn to books, movies and people that we can learn from to evolve or soul. Stay on the ride and you can’t go wrong.

  24. Kathy on November 9, 2022 at 3:41 pm

    Does our higher soul self also come through from the Other Side to connect with those who are living today, amongst us? It’s all so mind blowing to consider that 75% of “me” is elsewhere! Is that 75% portion of me considered “dead”? So weird! Since only a small percentage of who we are is considered alive here on Earth, what is the majority or our existence considered to be? Is life as we know it simply a dream? Do all the hundreds of past lives we’ve had add up to who we have become today? Does each past life create a frequency that never disappears?

    • Steve Spur on December 4, 2023 at 1:47 pm

      Reality that we live here, will seem like a dream on the other side. You are all of the lives you’ve lived in your past. Those who practice compassion and forgiveness have lived the most lives and are the most advanced. Free will screws up many experiences that we have because our ego gets in the way. You and the elders and spirit guides took a long time to help you design a life full of lessons to evolve your soul. Use your intuition and go with what you feel is right. Enjoy as much as this life as you can. Steer your life to unconditional love and you won’t go wrong in this life!

  25. Pango on February 18, 2023 at 1:40 am

    You said that many souls told you that in heaven, perfection and paradise is boring. It doesn’t make sense. Paradise and perfection shouldn’t have the feeling of boredom. It seems dissatisfied and not contented. It is not heaven then. You also said that we have to be reincarnated for hundreds and thousands of lives. It seems to be eternal pain and suffering. One lifetime here is too much pain already. I wish we have a choice to be not exist anymore. No happiness and no pain, no consciousness and no desires.

    • Steve Spur on December 4, 2023 at 1:41 pm

      That should be a goal, no desires and no pain. You want to play every role that there is to play to learn everything there is to learn. If you win the game over and over and over again, you’re not learning anything. You are an advanced soul trying to evolve your soul. You’re not going to do that fishing on the beach and drinking your favorite beer. You’ll want new experiences, even if you have to experience pain and suffering. What seems like an eternity in this life, is just a blink of the eye in heaven. Always do good!

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