Relationship Advice from Little Girls…
Two of the smartest people I know are my my 4-yr-old and 7-yr-old granddaughters. About four months ago I picked up the 4-yr-old from Pre-K and she announced in the truck that she had a boyfriend! I said, What???
I asked does he know he’s your boyfriend. She said, yes, because I told him he was. And he said yes? Yep! She invited him to her birthday party and we’d ask about Jack, whom she called Jack Jack. I asked if anyone else calls him that and she said no, just her.
Skip ahead four months and I pick her up and ask about Jack. Oh, he’s not my boyfriend anymore. Really? Yep, I have a new boyfriend. And you told him he was your boyfriend? Yep! So what happened to Jack, why is he not your boyfriend anymore? She replied, He didn’t want to play with the toys I wanted to, and do the things I wanted to do.
The 7-yr-old shared that she knew a boy that had a crush on her. I asked, how she knew this and she rattled off four names of her girlfriends that told her. I said, do you like him? She said she liked him, but she didn’t “Like, Like” him. I said who do you “Like, Like?” She said she really liked this one boy, but he corrects everybody he talks to. He corrects how you talk, your ideas and nobody likes to be told they are wrong all of the time. So I like a new boy. I said, do you Like him or “Like,Like” him. Oh yes, I “Like, Like” him. Does he know? Yes, because my friends told him.
Wow! Girls on a mission. Makes since to me. Why do you want to hang out with people that don’t want to do the things that you do? Why hang around people that don’t make you happy? Friends will come and go. Make sure you’re growing in any relationship. And hopefully you’re growing together. You don’t want to be left on the playground alone! I’ve got to get the girls their own advice column.